may ins and outs

back again and entirely incapable of being a hater!

Hello Tamia Talkers, Happy May!

I don’t know about you, but it’s been a heavy week, and I’ve spent the past few days feeling a bit down. However, there is hope, and, this month, my collection of ins and outs is an aspirational calling in of good energy.

They are the things I want to hold onto and let go of. Perhaps you will join me in doing so.

Despite what Kendrick Lamar says, being a hater is so hard. I see people who come up with very quippy, delightful, and intelligent analyses about things they hate (see: Hate Read by

Delia Cai

), but, every month, I find it incredibly challenging to compile my most negative thoughts. I think it’s because there’s room for nuance in disdain and opportunity for growth and evolution in our frustrations. That’s all good and great to acknowledge.

But, until I get better at it, I plan to wake up every morning and turn Kendrick Lamar’s diss track into my morning affirmations.

I love the way that I walk, the way that I talk. I love the way that I dress, I love the way that I… exist. Whatever, fill in the blank with what you need to feel lifted. Here are my ins and outs.

In

• a good biscuit a spot of jam

• bean bags and an afternoon lounge

• taking a nap when you feel weary

• running for health (i’m back, i’ve done it)

• freshly squeezed orange juice and a me espresso

• supporting student journalism and all journalism, because it serves to inform and connect us <3

• going on a little trip to a place you’ve never been before

• live theatre and stage-dooring said theatre to give actors their well-deserved clout and appreciation

• calves and thighs (see: challengers)

• “beautiful gowns” - aretha franklin

• doing something kind for a neighbor and building community

• vests and a nice pair of tennis shoes (also known as kurt hummel attire)

• stage adaptations of romeo and juliet (hi rachel zegler <3)

• $20 smoothie and a personal investment in sea moss gel

• loving a diss track but only mouthing the lyrics because you’re afraid to speak negative energy into your life

• dua lipa

Out

• overdoing it and not taking time to rest

• nihilism

• forgetting to make your bed

• only reading the headline (please stop)

• tight hips and skipping yoga

• overpacking

• not knowing who chappell roan is

• self-deprecating thoughts and forgetting to celebrate your wins

• phone out at the dinner table, lock in! (except when you take a photo, for the memories)

• signing up to receive texts from a company to get a discount code (stop texting me, we are not friends and what do you mean, I might have to pay for additional messaging fees?!)

• thinking you don’t need sunscreen because you’re wearing a hat and long sleeves (you will still burn, diva!)

• letting a man (or two) ruin your life (i’m talking to you, tashi duncan!!)

• uncomfy shoes (love this one)

Vibe of the Week

@saltysugar.rthe bag is chasing after me🕯️

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